I am My Own Home and other essays

What is it about male aloneness that makes it so desirable while female aloneness is seen as less so? What is it about male aloneness that is often seen as a heroic and poetic choice, while female aloneness is generally seen to have come from a lack of options?

I am My Own Home is a documentation of what it means to be a 30-something Indonesian woman who lives alone, along with the contentment and loneliness that goes with it. Through wandering, literature, and pop culture, the essays collected here are a way to recreate the idea of ‘building a home’, a manifesto (of sort) of living life as one person. These stories, on flaws and trying too hard, on intensity and overthinking, and on unrequited love and unfiltered emotions, are also one woman’s way to make sense of her existence.